The Nonconformist rejects the established norms and asks anew, and the Guardian keeps the order that must be kept to the end. The Nonconformist is the one who wants to change things, and the Guardian is the one who wants to keep them.
A society needs both people who reform and people who preserve, but within one relationship the two easily clash head-on. What follows is an honest account of what wears the two of them out, and what, even so, they can learn from each other.
The Nonconformist is strangely drawn to the firmness of the Guardian, who stays the same in any situation. The Guardian has plenty of the stability the Nonconformist lacks.
The Guardian, in turn, is attracted to the freedom of the Nonconformist, who asks anew without hesitation. The Nonconformist shows that there are possibilities outside the ways the Guardian has kept.
The deepest conflict between them is over what is right. The Nonconformist says to do away with unverified customs, and the Guardian says not to carelessly change an order that has been kept for a long time. Because both believe their own side is morally right, it is hard for them to compromise.
Their views of authority are also opposite. The Nonconformist doubts authority itself, and the Guardian believes authority holds society together. On the same issue, the Nonconformist thinks of resistance and the Guardian thinks of order.
The more the Nonconformist challenges norms, the more firmly the Guardian opposes, and the more strongly the Guardian opposes, the more fiercely the Nonconformist resists. Both keep repeating a pattern in which what each does to protect their own values pushes the other into more extreme behavior.
As this repeats, the Nonconformist feels misunderstood and grows lonely, and the Guardian feels constantly threatened and wears out. Neither sees the other as a villain, yet only opposition remains between them.
Paradoxically, a society is healthiest when people who change things and people who keep them are together. Beside the Guardian, the Nonconformist learns to reform responsibly, and beside the Nonconformist, the Guardian gains the courage to let go of what is outdated.
A society by nature needs both people who change things and people who preserve them. Once the two begin to understand each other not as enemies but as partners who keep them in balance, they can find a direction in which to protect together the values they had been opposing.
It is the relationship in which differing values become clearest. The two grow closer when they listen to what the other is trying to protect before arguing over right and wrong.
Their ways of life easily split head-on. The two can bear that difference when they know that wanting to change things and wanting to keep them are both different ways of expressing love.
The one who wants to reform and the one who wants to keep stability easily argue until work stops. If they set boundaries together on what to change and what to keep, the two can use their difference as a force that drives the work forward.
The two forces clash on the largest scale. When each sees the other not as something to remove but as a counterpart that creates balance, society does not lean to one side.
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