One person arrives ten minutes early, and the other is always five minutes late. The argument is not really about time. It comes from how differently each of them sees being late.
They calculate time differently. People who count only travel time leave out the time it takes to get ready at home, and people who count some extra time as well always arrive first.
They also stop what they are doing at different points. Some stop when the clock says so, and others finish what they are doing before leaving. The second group is a little late every time.
The one who always waits starts to think their time does not matter to the other person. Five minutes is short, but when it happens every time, it looks like a problem of attitude rather than time.
The one who arrives early feels it is always unfair to them. They moved their own schedule earlier to leave a margin, and no one notices that effort.
They see being on time differently. Some see it as the most basic part of keeping a promise, and others see a few minutes either way as something that can be adjusted.
They also differ in how absorbed they get in one thing. People who become deeply absorbed in what they are doing often forget to check the time. They did not ignore it. They simply did not notice.
The person who is usually late sets a departure time instead of an arrival time. A promise to leave at a certain time is easier to keep than a promise to arrive by a certain time.
The person who waits asks to be told in advance when the other will be late. Saying that waiting without knowing is harder than the lateness itself tells the other person what to do.
The person who waits starts leaving late too. If they assume the other will be late anyway and leave late themselves, the agreed time stops meaning anything, and eventually even important plans go wrong.
The person who is usually late gets tired of apologizing every time. Repeating the same apology stops sounding sincere, and once apologies become a formality, the next late arrival is taken even more lightly.
Problems with time look like a difference in how responsible someone is, but they are usually a difference in how each person plans. Even a responsible person is always late if they calculate time differently.
The recurring conflicts in the relationship analysis show, situation by situation, the arguments that are likely to repeat between the two. If punctuality is one of them, the rules for what to decide in advance appear alongside it.
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